ADHD – neamhord hipirghníomhaíochta an easnaimh airde (NHEA)

Ar dTús. Níor thug mé aird ort Ar dtús. Bhí cuidiú uaim A dúirt tú, aríst, Ag faire, ag fanacht Le troid uaim. Ró-thuirseach Ró-bhrónach Le troid. Racht géillte Do mo nochtadh. Ró-fhada domh Do mo thachtadh. Moladh gaoithe Ráfla inchinne Bealach ar strae. Ansin a chuimil tú, Glacfaidh an oilithreacht seo Smidiríní mo shaoil Le grian bheag a thógáil A lasfaidh fad an bhealaigh A fhad le diagnóis. B’fhéidir é Nach ormsa An locht ar fad. Nár chomh fada eatarthu Saol fíorscaoilte Saol fíorchróga Agus a bhreac mé síos Ar phár mo dhíograis le peann mo chroí Ar chumhaidh an oileáin. Ach tusa bheith ann Lámh liom Croí liom Chaoinfinn Uisce mo chinn. Caillim Leathchuid a deir tú Go fóill. Ach anois Tá fáilte le feasacht. Iarraim maithiúnas ort Le tosnú aríst. *** Tá cumhaidh an oileáin go tiubh thart orm anocht. Ach ní cuimhin liom an ag fagáil nó ag teacht ar ais atá mé? *** Fuair mé diagnóis ADHD/NHEA i 2016 nuair a bhí mé 44 bliain d’aois. Ag an am ní raibh a fhios agam ach go raibh imní ar mo bhean Emma go raibh early onset alzheimers ag teacht orm. Ní raibh maith ar bith ionam

10 Thoughts and A Poem (For times of crisis and political despair)

  General thoughts if you didn’t vote for the people who are now in charge of the professional political power structures that govern you, when it is also pretty clear they don’t care about how many people get harmed or killed in their pursuit of the economic- or power-grabbing interests of the privileged few: 1. You may feel overwhelmed. You may feel like you can’t do anything, like it’s all gone to hell. If this is the case, you are losing sight of yourself, and of your place in the world. Sometimes people influence us to do that. Sometimes we do that ourselves. Either way, bring it all back home. You are sufficient, more than sufficient. Everything you need to be strong and courageous has always been available to you. Remember where you are. Who you’re with. What you love. Who you love. Where you love. The anthem of resilience is the beating of the human heart. 2. Trust the way things run against your grain. Resistance is first and foremost a physiological reaction. Anger is often a helpful response to extreme conditions. 3. Anger as a response to conditions doesn’t last. If you are staying angry, you’re generating that

Double Listening

I am interested in the coaching possibilities opened up by Winslade and Monk’s mediation technique of “double listening”. Drawing on the work of Michael White, they make note of the “absent but implicit” story of hope that sits alongside the voicing of a story of conflict: “Mediators can give this story of hope for something better a chance if they first of all hear this absent but implicit hope and then begin to inquire into the story that it is a part of. The story may often by subordinate to the story of the outrage and pain, but it perhaps speaks to the person’s better intentions in relation to the other party. If given the chance for expression, these better intentions can give rise to a different story of the future” (Winslade and Monk 2008:10-11). The expression of pain and suffering through remembered events and feelings can become a seed for hopeful reflections, not as a utopian aspiration, but as an awareness of the desire for a more positive experience that the pain and conflict reveal. I think the lessons of this “double listening” are not just relevant to formal mediation, but are also helpful in invitations to transformation more

Self-care and Enclosure

Self-care isn’t impossible in culturally unsustainable environments of enclosure (difficult, even toxic working environments), but it does tend to be rendered unlikely, unless you make ready, strengthen your sense of presence and resolve, and clarify what’s important to you before entering the arena.  When all around you is swirling, it’s important that you don’t start swirling too. You can go into it convinced that all will be well, that the integrity of your ego and confidence will remain intact. Some people go the other way, actively wanting their personalities to be displaced, dissolved, and reformed, but the consequences of that can be disastrous. People work in difficult environments for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes it’s because they love the buzz, the conflict, and the drive. That stress can get addictive. Sometimes it’s because they feel like they have no option but to, on account of financial necessity. Sometimes it’s out of a sense of family loyalty. Whatever the reason, the most difficult work environments often shroud their cultural unsustainability through high employee turnover. Staying in a difficult environment for a number of years will grind anyone down, even if you rise to the so-called top of the pile. Sometimes it’s as simple as your adrenal system

Supermarkets, Shopping, and Discernment

It is an overlooked truism to say that many of the thoughts we think, the feelings we feel, and the things we do come from other people, other times, and other places. Back in the 1980s I remember that visiting a supermarket tended to be a fairly unthinking activity. We would take down cans of food, or what approximated to food, and place them rather carelessly in the shopping trolley, before carting them home and eventually consuming the mysteries within. These days we tend to be quite a bit more discriminating about what we buy. Checking the ingredients list on the side of a can or a packet has become almost automatic; we now seem to have developed a keen sense that what we eat has an effect on our bodies, our minds, our emotions, and our quality of life. And we don’t stop there; we also check where our food has come from, in light of anything from airmiles to sweatshops to the policies of nations. Sometimes when I think of the thoughts we think, the feelings we feel, the doings we do, I think about shopping in a supermarket. In mind of the spirit of Karl Marx who